There will be many moments when that inner Bridezilla just suppresses everything else. Like when you have to choose the perfect color for your Indian wedding cards or when you address the wedding invitations wrong. There will be times in whole planning when you will just get all jittery and give everyone a hard time. So, for this post, we are sharing a few tips that will help you in being all cool and calm instead of turning into a Bridezilla. Here it goes:
How To Ensure The Wedding Stress
1. Planning is the first thing:
Planning is one of the many things that will help you not turning into a “Bridezilla” for your big day. Yes, there are chances that everything might not go according to plan but that doesn’t make them any less important or unnecessary. For better execution, you need to chart out everything- the things you want at your wedding like the type of wedding invitations, your requirements along with the deadlines. Weddings can easily be structured only if you have a solid plan at the back end. The plans will prevent you from going off-track and even let others know what, when and how they need to do it.
2. Don’t get all bossy with them:
We know that this is your time and everything you do can be overlooked up to a certain extent. But this doesn’t make you the boss of everyone around you helping in planning the big day of your life. They love you and care for you and hence are there to make your day memorable. So don’t yell at them or throw any tantrums because there are good chances, it may all backfire. Only when people around you are happy, they will do the same for you. So let your anger and agitation be at bay while you enjoy this whole planning journey for the “perfect wedding”.
3. Keep in touch with your troop on a regular basis:
It is very essential to have regular communication with your troop before you just snap at them at any mis-happening. This will also ensure that there is no room for confusion throughout your wedding. you can’t do everything and you surely need the help of others to make things happen. Also, if you’re particular about things and want them to be handled in a certain way, it is essential to clearly state that to the person-in-charge. For instance, if you have chosen your friend proficient in English to proofread the wedding invitations, clearly state them the purpose. Don’t think for a moment that the other person will understand it on its own. Be very clear and specific with them with your communication to them.
4. Don’t hold any grudges against anyone
How do you picture Bridezilla? Usually, it’s a woman with the prominent feature of holding grudges and then giving a hard time even to the person now helping her. And if you don’t want that, it is essential to not hold any grudges against anyone. You surely don’t want to give a hard time or hurt anybody helping you in making this day the best day of your life. If there are some things are not happening as per your wish, try to avoid it instead of fussing over it. It will be good for you as well as for the people around. Also, sometimes not getting what you want is just a wonderful stroke of luck. So who knows when you were just whining over not getting pink roses for your wedding, your partner chose the exotic blooms- ORCHIDS.
5. Trust your people helping you
Everyone who is attending this special day has been a vital part of your life in some manner. They are versed with you and your needs. They are there with you and keeping it for a pretty long time now. In fact, some of the closest ones have been part of all those wedding talks as well. So, it is better to trust them and let some things be handled in the way they feel like. You have to consider their comfort as well. So don’t turn into a Bridezilla who is good at criticizing and nagging everyone around her. Have trust in them and enjoy this period.
6. It’s all about priorities
When it comes to counting the things you need as a bride, the list is pretty extensive, isn’t it? We are not questioning it or asking you to cut down on anything. All you have to do to suppress that Bridezilla within is to prioritize the things in that list. You can commence from the top of the list and then work your way out to the very end. It will help in making sure that you don’t overlook any important thing and left it for the last. This will help you in being more relaxed and chill.
7. You can’t control everything
It’s better to accept the fact that you cannot control everything. Yes, because no matter what you are a bride and not GOD who can control everything. During the whole process and even on the “d-day” there will be some bumps and glitches which is not unusual. The best you can do is to prepare for the emergency. Even when it didn’t work out, don’t freak out or start worrying over the small imperfections on your big perfect day. Edges can be beautiful as well and let’s not forget, these imperfections end up in the most amazing memories.
8. Don’t overlook the real deal
The main purpose of the wedding is to tie the knot of two amazing souls madly in love with each other. It’s not to showcase the picture perfect carnival. For this event, you will be taking vows, making promises of love and unite together with the blessings of God and your families. Don’t forget the person standing beside you at that altar is the most important person you want in your life. It’s the constant while everything else is temporary. So, be the person in love and let that monster be at bay.